So one week after Logan was born Chris (daddy) was sent to work out of town. So most week night it was just me and Logan, then daddy was home on the weekends. A little over a month ago that job ended so Chris got to come back home and be with us during the week and weekends! Chris is an electrician and anyone who has spouses in the construction business knows work is spotty... So two weeks ago we made the decision he would leave the company he has worked for, for 8 years, and take a job over 4 hours away. This job isn't quite like the job before though. The job before they would work 4 ten hour days. So he would leave Monday morning and be home Thursday night. With his new job, 1 week he works 5, 10 hour days, then 2 weeks of 6, 10 hour days. With him being so far from home and having an 8 month old baby we make a trip up there one of the weeks he works 6 days for 10 hours, then the week he only works 5 days he comes homes. So there is a week that we don't see him! It's hard but we are adjusting and thankfully he will only have to do this for a little over a year! So we have a lot of commuting that we do! I know that in bigger cities commuting to work is not that big of a thing... we live in such a small county that it has been quite an adjustment having to leave the house an hour to hour and a half before you have to be somewhere and only going 8 to 9 miles. I do commute to work but we live about 22 miles from where I works and I leave the house a half an hour before I have to be there and am still there with a few minutes to spare... a traffic jam in our town consists of a 5-6 car back up! So I am a part-time single parent!
Holy Moly I am not sure how single mothers and especially ones that live away from there families do it! I have soo much respect for single parents! And single parents that have multiple kids and in school and sports! I can't imagine! You mammas and daddies ROCK! I feel like I am just barely surviving it some days! I get up at 5 and am in bed after 11 every single night. I am/was a sleeper too, from the time my mom brought me home from the hospital I would sleep 10-12 hours a day and that lasted right up until the day I had Logan! And most nights the house work it pushed off until the weekend! And I only have one 8 month old baby who isn't even crawling yet... So he is still fairly simple to take care of! My average schedule is wake up at 5, nurse the baby, get up throw a load of laundry in the washer, put the stuff from the night before in the dryer, feed the cat, let it out, take a shower, get dressed, change the laundry one more time, pack the diaper bag if I didn't the night before, pack workout clothes if not done the night before, load everything in the car, wake up Logan, change his diaper take him to whoever is watching him that day (He gets to stay in jammies because its early and It's just family), head to work, work until 5, workout usually last until about 7, drive home, pick up Logan, start dinner, start Laundry, feed Logan, give Logan a bath, get Logan ready for bed, play with Logan (Sometimes we do this before dinner), Change laundry around, put Logan to bed, pack diaper bag/workout clothes, more laundry, dishes, bathroom, last load of laundry, bed.... I don't know where the time goes in the evenings! I feel like if I had multiple kids I don't think I would ever be able to sleep! I also feel like all my time is spent on other people, chores.
How do we as mothers, especially ones who don't have significant others around all the time, make time in our busy routines and piles of laundry for the "me" time we had before. Don't get me wrong I love spending every moment with Logan and feel like I am the luckiest momma in the world that he was chosen for us! But it gets tiring! I have realized my "Me" time has changed... I spend extra time playing with the baby, or a few extra moments visiting when I pick him up from one of the grandparents or aunties, a walk down the aisle of the grocery store when I don't actually need anything there. It's so strange how every aspect of your life changes when you have a baby! I can say though I would change one single thing about our life! I love being this little boys mommy more than anything!
How many of you are single mommas, or daddies? How do you make time for yourselves?
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